Are You Trying to Have Kids?
Let’s just say if you love spending money on your self and not on others than children should most likely be out of the picture.
Children cost money; they have needs that might out weigh your needs like going shopping for the latest shoe trend or going to get your hair and nails done at your favorite salon.
As it might seem like it on social media, some people in their early 20s and early 30s are most likely not interested in having children.
Traveling, school, work, and hobbies for the most part might take up most of their time but lets not forget that people that have older siblings have children tend to be their babysitter or growing up with a little brother or sister might also prevent you from wanting to have children.
However according to Gallup Analysis: “Millennials, Marriage and Family,” there doesn’t appear to be any evidence that millennials — both married and single/never married — are putting off having children. And as the married or single millennials get to be in their 30s the percentage of millennials with children increases.
And if they are having children in their early 30s it might be because they planned it. Some people that are in their 20s are still trying to figure out their personal and professional life. Where they will live, how much money they will make in five years, when they will get their first “real” job or when they will meet the love of their lives.
A lot of things in their life might seem unclear and they just might not be ready to add another equation to their problems.
As stated by Gallup Analysis having children out of wedlock has increased considerably over the past decade and a half as well.
But that’s actually no surprise, in fact, some mothers are choosing to gravitate towards not having a significant other in their lives and that just might be that they just don’t have the time to baby two people. From my point of view on things during the pregnancy the father seems to be in the picture but after the child is born the father is out of the picture.
It might be because of the 50/50 rule, someone in the relationship is not committed to making the effort to actively help raise the child or not providing necessary needs for the child. And sometimes people in a relationship seem to fall out of love during the pregnancy or have lost hope in loving one another.
Many couples might even decided to put their child’s needs first and neglected to look at what their relationship needs are as well.
It takes two to tango they say but it also takes a family to raise a child. So maybe, just maybe millennials are just not ready for a full-time commitment of raising a child because they are not ready for part-time commitment of raising themselves.
In most cases, we all need more time to think about it.