Easier Said Than Done: Making Friends as an Adult
After spending four (or more) years in the college bubble, surrounded by people all the time, being jettisoned into the real world can be a little daunting – Especially when you may not have a close group of friends nearby! No matter your age, it’s always a good thing when you have someone to rant with or to enjoy coffee and conversation. Whether you’ve graduated from college or have moved to a new city, here are a few ways to meet and make some new friends as an adult.
Actually Try to Meet People
You can’t expect to connect with people if you’re sitting on the couch every day! Look for other people who enjoy the same things that you do. Like running? Does your gym have a running club or challenge group? Join and see who is there! Like to sing? Find a community chorus where you live. Join Meetup or LinkedIn to find networking events in your area. Any type of event that gets you out, about, and chatting with new people should be at the top of your list.
Get a Dog (or other furry friend)
This idea is a simple one! While we’re not suggesting that you substitute a pet for real human interaction, a furry friend can help you bridge the gap and meet some new people. Furry friends are great conversation starters with fellow pet owners, kids, and people you pass on the street. Dog parks are a great place to meet other dog parents and to meet other people in your neighborhood.
Ask Your Current Social Circle
You’d be surprised at how connected your social network may already be. When you know you are about to switch locations, post where you’ll be headed on social media and ask if anyone you know has friends, family, or any other connections in the place you’re headed. Be brave and open to suggestions. Your former classmates may have a sister or a cousin in another city who would love to meet for coffee and introductions – but you’ll never know until you ask!
Go Learn Something
If you ever wanted to learn (or improve) a new skill, take a class. Many times, our professional responsibilities keep us from our passion projects. So, if there’s ever been any class that you’ve wanted to take, now is the time! Hopefully, there will be some other people there who are interested in the same topics and discussion for you to add to your social circle. As you chase a passion, you’ll find the people. Also, knowing when you’ll keep meeting up with new friends is helpful. Pre-scheduled events (like classes or clubs) help keep these new connections on your calendar. Plus, you’ll be learning something. It’s a win-win.
While it may be scary, meeting and making new friends as an adult can be done. Try to expand your horizons, keep an open mind, and take the initiative. When the time is right, you’ll reach out and invite the right people into your life. Work on yourself and you’ll find the people you want to attract into your life.