“Get A Real Job”
Recently, I was confronted by an individual who proceeded to tell me he does not believe in tipping servers any more than $5 no matter the bill total; that doing so is just a way of supplying “free, undeserved money”. Somewhere between his illogical explanation and self-righteous attitude, I had to just let him believe in what he did and continue with my night. As a server who has worked in the restaurant business for years, I was appalled at the ignorance in his statement, but it was not my position to attempt to sway his opinion. As if this was not enough, he told me I should go out and “get a real job”.
First off, I would like to express I fully understand that not everyone is in a position in which they can throw money left and right. There are instances where a 20 percent tip can be difficult to provide. Meals add up. Money can be tight. But it is a known fact that tipping is incorporated into the payment process.
Tips are how servers make their money. I can’t tell you the last time I had a paycheck exceed $15.
I have noticed an arise in a number of posts and forums stating that those who work in the restaurant industry act as if the world is owed to them, that we expect people to “feel bad” for us. Well, no. That is not the case. It is human nature to desire the respect we provide you with.
Our shifts are spent catering to the needs of our guests, but that’s okay because it is our job.
We are on our feet the whole time, and we have to be pretty awesome multitaskers with good memories. I know some of you may be thinking there are plenty of other jobs in which you must acquire the same skills. That is true! But this is in regards to serving, and I am not degrading other job choices as I have seen people do with ours.
For those who may be having a difficult time grasping the reality of a server, this may provide enough insight as to why I believe tipping your servers is well worth it.
“Okay, I am getting sat. How many are there? It’s a four top? That’s not bad, I can handle this. Uh-oh the host is bringing over two high chairs. I hope the kids aren’t going to throw food all over the place. Shoot, I still need to take napkins to table 65 and grab 62’s drink from the bar. CHRISTINA RUN TABLE 82’s FOOD! Am I ever going to get to my table? Then, the host asks if it is okay to seat me with a party. WHAT?! I haven’t even greeted 61 yet! But yea go ahead I’m broke and need the money.
Excuse me, Christina, I just want to let you know it’s my son in the red shirts birthday, do you do anything for birthdays? Ugh, not another birthday, this is the fifth one tonight. I finally make it to table 61 and along the way every table needs refills, napkins, sauces, you name it, they need it. Okay, that was three unsweetened ice teas, two bar drinks, ranch and honey mustard for table 51, more fries for each table…excuse me where is your bathroom? Right underneath the restroom sign. Poor 61 is never going to get their drinks. Awesome, 65 is getting up. Let’ s see if my bubbly personality and attentive service was enough. $6 on an $80 check??? They had me running like a mad woman and told me I was the best server they have ever had!!! Oh, well, ya cant win em all, I guess”.
This is just a slight glimpse into the mindset of a server.
A point that has been brought to my attention as to why servers do not deserve a 20 percent tip is based on the belief that we always have someone doing our job for us.
Whether it be a busser, food runner, expo or bartender, there are times we do not have their assistance. Something some don’t know is we tip them based off of a percentage of our sales. So part of our tips ends up getting given away.
The next time you are in a restaurant, remember, we need to make an income too. I understand there are circumstances where the service is not worthy of a 20 percent tip. But you never know what that person may be going through. Sometimes, accidents happen, the cooks may cook the food wrong, and the restaurant may be understaffed. But, as long as your server is attentive and enthusiastic, it is important to take care of them as we take care of you.