What Being a “Girl Boss” Has Shown Me
The product of blood, sweat, tears, and determination would be the same if I was a man.
Being a boss is a huge responsibility. I’ve been a boss since June of 2016, and I’ve loved every single second of it but that doesn’t mean that it’s been easy. As both a young boss AND a girl boss, I’ve had my struggles, but neither of those things have gotten in the way of how I operate my teams.
Society is so focused on girls being bosses that they miss the fact that they’re even bosses at all. The gender gets in the way of the title. For me, I could be a boy and a boss and I would feel the same level of accomplishment. My gender has not in any way affected the way that I delegate. Male or female, being a boss is a huge responsibility and in my opinion, I don’t think I deserve extra attention for being a boss just because I’m a woman. If all humans are equal – which I fully believe that they ALL are – then why is a girl being a boss such a big deal?
When explaining to people that I have over 30 people on my staff, they get a little blindsided. “Wow, good for you! How long have you been a girl boss? That’s so inspiring,” I’ve heard countless times and don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the words. But would I still be that inspiring if you were talking to a male?
As a society, I think it’s fair to say that when we hear “boss,” some of us automatically assume that we’re talking about a man. The mere fact that women rising up in titles in the workplace should not phase anybody, however, if the belief of equality is really alive and well; which it is and it is becoming more and more prevalent.
As a “girl boss,” I’ve heard everything. I’ve seen a lot. I’ve had to deal with difficult circumstances. But, I do not and will not pat myself on the back for doing those jobs – and doing them well – just because I’m female. I will pat myself on the back and congratulate myself because I’m doing a damn good job as a human being in the position I’m in. My age, race, and especially gender, has nothing to do with the way I operate as a boss. So, to me, I’m not a “girl boss,” I’m just a boss. And I wouldn’t trade it for the world.