How Long to Wait Before Starting a New Relationship?
Ending a long term relationship can not only be nerve wrecking, it can also be liberating. But how long should you wait after ending a relationship before getting in to a new one? Of course the waiting time will vary from person to person. However, no matter who you are one thing is certain, if you get in to a relationship too soon, you may be missing out on some important life experiences you were missing out on while in your relationship. Here are some things to keep in mind before taking that leap … Again for a new relationship.
While a relationship shouldn’t be so constricting you feel as if you are suffocating, you will have somebody else to think about before making plans or just taking off somewhere. You just spend however long doing this, are you ready to give it up quite yet?
Your new stress free life.
Remember in your relationship when you would get on each others nerves or have fights over nothing? While some fights were silly, others were more serious. Remember that frustrated feeling. You may say that this person is different, but the truth is every relationship will have rough patches, it’s up to you to decide if you’re ready for that again.
Your social circles.
Right now you can spend all the time in the world with your friends and family. Once you get in to a new relationship you’ll have to join their circle of friends and be a part of another family. While some people think, “The more the merrier”, what if you don’t get along with one of them? Or what if they don’t get along with your friends or family? This could cause problems not only for your relationship but also for the relationships with the people both of you love.
That awkward phase.
If you just met then you have to go through the whole getting comfortable again. This means going through the gross firsts again. If you aren’t one to get embarrassed easily then this one is no sweat. But if you’re the kind that likes to wait a few months to a year before letting them know that you are a normal person who poops and pees, then this could be a huge thing for you.
Some people have been over their previous relationships while they were still with the person, but for others they still have feelings for the person. If you still have feelings for your previous person, you’re not ready to begin a new relationship. Maybe you could try and start a friendship with the person instead for a while. This will give you the time you need to mend your heart. This will not only save you from the embarrassment of finding out you’re not ready but it’ll save them the heartache from getting attached to you before you’re ready. Sometimes it’s better to let summer go to fall. If you skip fall completely, there’s no time for regrowth and renewal.