How to Know if You’re Being Gaslighted
A common form of emotional abuse is gas-lighting. Gas-lighting is basically being manipulated to the point where eventually you won’t be able to tell what really happened versus what was real in a situation. Mind you, in a relationship your partner probably makes excuses or lies once in a while but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re being gas-lighted.
If you have more than one of the following then you should take a closer look at your relationship.
They deny saying something that you know they said. This is part of the manipulation. If they do this enough they will eventually make you start second guessing if you are hearing things.
They straight out tell lies. They want you to start second guessing things because their goal is to make you unsteady and constantly unsure.
After knocking you down a few times they will give you praise and build you back up. They’re trying to gain more of your trust and make you think, “Maybe they aren’t so bad after all, maybe the terrible things are all in my head..” No, they’re not. Just because they have the ability to be nice every once in a while doesn’t mean they’re good for you.
One of their goals is to make you question everything. Most people like to have stability and a sense of control. If you feel as if you’re going crazy and are always uncertain about things, you no longer have control; they do.
They will cause people to go against you. Maybe they’ll tell you that someone close to them thinks you’re useless or not right for them. Sometimes the person they’re talking about never said those things. They use this tactic so you are unsure of who to trust or go to in your time of need. Remember, they gain more control over you through isolation.
Gas-lighting does not happen over night.
This is a gradual process that, most of the time, you don’t even realize it’s happening until it’s too late. It may start with a lie here or there, maybe even a vulgar derogatory comment once in a while. Then before you know it, you’re under their control. You start second guessing yourself, your sanity, your friends and even your own family. If you’re noticing any of these signs keep a close eye on how your partner acts; chances are you’re being gas-lighted.