Pain Is Not Love- Stop Romanticizing It
I think the hardest part of depression is the fact that you feel like such a fraud. You feel like you might be just making all this up and others are suffering way more. It’s the feeling that no one sees your pain, that your illness isn’t as valid as a physical one, and that you can somehow just man through it. You feel selfish and pathetic because you can’t even bring yourself to have a shower, but have nothing physical to prove it. There are no fevers, no rashes, no blood tests, so people could react to your illness. Even worse, some of them may not even consider the problems you are going through.
This kind of attitude towards mental illnesses frequentely foster stigma and discrimination to the ones suffering.
There are many reasons why mental illnesses are stigmatized within society. However, it all comes down to the fact that throughout history, in art, poetry, literature and many other aspects of our life, pain has been romanticized. People had invented the concept of “beauty in pain”, twisting depression into seeming like something beautiful. This romanticization may appear on the surface a means to find inspiration when it comes to the inevitable, darker aspects of life. I, however, find that explanation much too simple. Drawing inspiration can come from a person who displays a positive attitude. It can also come from a person who achieves progress in spite of grief, despair, and tough moments. We must aknowledge that pain isn’t deep and certainly not beautiful. All the posts about it being anything other than a painful struggle are not only disrespectful but incredibly invalidating .