This Is Life After College
There are few things particularly as daunting as moving home from college. It’s odd in a very specific kind of way.
At your commencement, you were probably told that the world was your oyster. That this particular moment is just the beginning of so much that has yet to come. And whoever told you that was right. What commencement speakers neglect to mention, however, is that little slump you’ll probably go through between graduation and what comes next.
As someone who just moved her tassel and tossed her cap in the air this past May, I’m also among many fellow graduates who packed their things up and moved back home for the summer. I traded in the exciting and dynamic world that is D.C. for suburban life in New Jersey.
Now, moving home is a choice we all make upon graduating – we either stay in the city in which we attended school, move home, or relocate to somewhere entirely new. I am among the individuals who made the choice to move home before embarking on my next journey.
But like I said before, no one tells you what moving home will be like post-college. Sure, we’ve all returned home for summer breaks between semesters, but nothing is quite like that first big move home after you’ve received your diploma. Like any self-proclaimed advice-giver, I’d like to provide you with some insight on what to expect after that big move.
It’s going to feel weird
I’m sure finally dropping all of your college items off at home was a massive relief of some sort, but after that it gets tricky. You’ve been out of the house for four years now, which means the lifestyle you’ve cultivated for yourself out on your own may not blend well with the one at home. Likewise, your parents, family, or whomever your home-life is centered around have now lived without you for four years. This means that they too have moved on to create a life, whether you choose to believe it or not, independently of you. It’ll be weird when those two worlds inevitably collide; but don’t worry about it much. Adjusting to environments is a part of life. Just like you adjusted to life outside of the house, you’ll soon readjust to life back in the house.
Old friendships may change
If you’re among the lucky few that have had a closely-knit group of friends from high school onward, that’s fantastic. If you’re in my camp, however, you and your high school friends probably drifted apart, which is not unusual when all your friends embark on different journeys throughout the country. You’ll probably find yourself missing your college friends and the respective lives you’ve all led together. It’s natural and it’s not far-fetched to be in this position. The light at the end of the tunnel, however, is the accessibility of travel and communication. Pick up a phone, hop on a plane, do whatever it takes to stay as connected as possible.
You’re still figuring out what you want to do with your life
Once again, if you’re among the lucky few who knew exactly what you wanted in life, and had a job lined up and ready for you after college, you’re off to a great start. However, most of us have just graduated with a degree and are still figuring out what exactly it is we want to do with said degree, or are still on the seemingly endless job hunt. If you’re in this camp, like me, remember that good things take time. It may feel like nothing is coming your way, but don’t give up yet. Patience will get you far and warrant you one awesome reward.