When is the Right Time for a Baby?
There comes a time in our life , when we notice the biological clock’s ticking a little bit louder. Whether you are in a relationship or not, if you are getting closer to the big 30, you may question some aspects of your life. By then, maybe you’ve sorted out some of your career goals, ticked off several items from the bucket list, made amazing friends, but haven’t said yes to parenthood yet. They say you can’t have it all at the same time, but let’s be ambitious and try for a bit of everything maybe, shall we?
From my perspective, balance is everything. In order to reach fulfillment, we have to find a way of creating harmony within ourselves and then with our surroundings. Becoming a parent is a significant part of this whole harmony and should always be a conscious and mature choice. Besides the fact that it is a responsibility for the rest of our life, it’s also the unbreakable bond with another person.
In most cases, a well-functioning and healthy relationship goes through several stages during its development. Each stage brings up several options and it takes both parts to decide which way they want to follow in order to progress. Speaking of progress, at some point, the question of creating a family together pops up, as the natural way of development in relationships. Of course family may be just him and her, the odd duo, but the magic lies in creating together something amazing and unique: a little love product.
Due to my work, I’ve had the chance to meet many young parents. What all of them had in common before the first baby was fear. They all freaked out initially because yes, from whichever angle you look at it, becoming a parent is a damn scary step. It’s so scary that some relationships don’t even survive it. As scary as it is, it’s beautiful and satisfying too. It brings a whole new capacity of understanding to life.
We must sometimes make decisions that are difficult and frightening. We don’t know whether we can deal with what comes after or we simply get so intimidated by the unknown that we choose to settle with the old, safe monotony. The fact is, we can’t get a new outcome if we are not willing to put in a different effort.
The young parents I talked to said there’s no such thing as being ready, or the right time. There’s never really a right time or completely feeling ready. But there is instead a GOOD time and a feeling of being scared, but still going through with it.
After all, good things happen on the other side of fear. For all the others: please, use a condom!