You Have To Be Yourself To Be Free.
“Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.” ~Judy Garland
As you grow, you learn new things about the world around you and the people in it. And one thing that you think you learn early on is who you are yourself.
Who were some of your role models growing up? Why did you look up to them? What was it about them that caught your attention? Maybe you liked their style: their hair, makeup, clothes, etc. Perhaps it was their personalities or aspects of it. Or did you want to live the kind of life that they had? It’s okay, we’ve all been there. And that’s perfectly okay!
Speaking for Myself…
I have a bit of an obsessive personality. It’s sounds crazier than it is, trust me. When I say “obsessive personality” I mean that I tend to fixate on things that are new to me and interest me. I like to learn as much as I can about whatever it is until there’s nothing more to know about it. And when it came to making friends, I took aspects of my friends and added it to my own being. It got to the point where I was following the herd blindly and not caring if I was or wasn’t being my own person.
Who Are You?
When you try too hard to fit in with “the crowd”, you can completely lose what makes you you. You wake up one day and find that you’re a stranger in your own skin. Whose personality is this? Are these clothes my style or someone else’s? Do I actually like the things I say I do? This is the point in which you’ve got to sit yourself down and really think about who you are in the present moment. Is there anything left that’s still yours?
Getting to Know Yourself Again…
I’m pretty deep into my journey to becoming completely and unapologetically myself. I’m still learning new things about myself everyday. I enjoy music styles that are new to me. I’m watching a lot of movies and independent films that I’d never even considered watching before. No longer do I pile tons and tons of makeup onto my face daily. My closet’s changed quite a bit, too, and I love the things I wear now.
My tastes have changed in so many ways. I don’t just mean the superficial stuff like makeup and clothes and hair, even though it’s crazy fun to experiment with style. My tastes have changed in the way I view my life and the world. Religion, politics, social issues; my opinions have changed dramatically in the past few years. I think though, that I’ve changed for the better.
Do I still take influence from others? Of course, we all do that. But, I no longer try to emulate something other than what I genuinely am. I can honestly say that I’ve never been happier than I have been since I decided to be my own person.
You Can Relax Now.
When you stop trying to be someone else, you no longer have to meet someone else’s expectations of you. Once you decide to live life as your own true version of yourself, the only standards you have to live up to are your own. Set your own standards and live your life according to them. And if you slip up here and there, remember that you’re not infallible. The opinions of others will always exist. you can choose to let them rule you or you can choose to dictate your own actions without the distraction of outside voices.
You are caged as someone else. As yourself, you’re free.